Basic Respect for a Friend

I've many tots these days, starting with the most recent tot - basic respect for a friend.

Recently, I lent my luggage to a friend, which of cus, is a totally normal gesture for a friend. This luggage was delivered to her hse, for her convenience. When agreeing on this loan, I've mentioned that I need to take it back as soon as she return. Her return flight was tuesday and we hv agreed to return the luggage on wednesday. My mum is flying of on the coming Sunday and I need to get back the luggage for her.

Sad to say, when I contacted my friend on Wed, she told me she wanted to go cheong and would not be around for me to collect the luggage. Pls take note, I dun expect her to send back to me, instead, my bf will go to her hse to take from her. So, of cus, when I heard this, I dun feel good.

Nonetheless, I agree to collect on Thurs nite instead. However, at 11pm Wed nite, my friend called my bf telling him she is going out the following evening and requested he either collect at tat time or on Thurs morn.

OMG, is tat hw a friend shd do? I mean, I've told her I need to take the luggage on Wed, she can't make it, I've pushed it to Thurs nite. Yet again, she just fix other appt and call up to say she wun b around for us to collect the luggage.

Comeon, if u r a true friend, at least hv some respect - Keep your promise. Moreover, this has been mentioned and agreed upon. Is not a last min thing. I've informed of my mum trip at the point she borrowed the luggage. Thus, issit too much to request for the return of the luggage 4 days b4 my mum trip.

When I heard that my friend would be home whole day on Thurs and only go out in the evening, I felt more anger. She knew that both my bf and myself will be working in the day, and we can only go over in the nite to collect the luggage. Yet, of the whole day, she choose to go out at nite.

Anyway, I felt disheartened. When she needed me as a friend, I was there. But when she patch back with her lover, she just accommodate to her lover and neglect her friends.

I've mentioned b4, she will lose all her friends if she continue this way. But it seems like my advise ain't important. More impt is making her lover happy.

I wish she is happy with her decision and life.

I guess I can just treat that she has lost a friend.

I m stubborn, but I c it as a principle. I dun need friends who do not hv a basic respect for our agreement or appointments.